It‘s a beautiful Saturday evening and the whole world is out there enjoying themselves to the fullest. They have plans to hit a bar or a pub or just be themselves with some friends coming over to dine with them. People who are married and have kids may want to spend the ‘family time’ at home relaxing and discussing all about the previous week.
You are back from a hard day’s work and you too want to have someone around, either to have a beer or just chill out over a pizza and a movie. Yes, that is an interesting plan! But will you be able to materialise it at a time when you need it most? You feel disconcerted and think about a few friends who would be willing to give you company. Searching through your cell phone name list, you find out that there is no one who can be your Saturday night accomplice or a partner in crime- whatever you want to call it. And you have to face this situation almost every weekend or you can say every day? Does this sound familiar? Well you are not alone. There are many people who find ways to kills loneliness and in the end resort to alcohol or in the worst case- take to drugs.
In this article, I would like to throw light upon few ‘do’s and don’ts ‘when you are feeling alone or missing your family or partner (if he/she is out for a trip).
All that you ‘can’ and ‘must’ do when you have the dreaded feeling of aloneness
Take up a hobby-
Either you like to read, write, listen to music, work out, play outdoor games or just like to cook to unwind- Do it! Never waste time thinking about what others might be doing at that hour. That’s the worst thing that we could do to ourselves. Nothing could be worse than envying others who have company. There are chances that they are feeling alone than ever even with people around. And maybe they too want to be left to themselves and indulge in some hobbies. Remember- We are what we think at that moment. It’s a great feeling to have felt accomplished after having read something worthwhile or played a game of tennis or football out there at a local club (Even if it is with strangers. Is it time to make new friends?)
Meditate
Meditation can be done in various different forms and techniques. Not necessarily that you need to recite a mantra. It is a great source of relaxation and what they call the food for soul. It not only makes you feel good about yourself but also makes you intelligent, focussed and more at peace in life. You would no longer feel futile and despondent and it will add new dimensions to your small world (making it bigger). For ways of meditation, you can learn new techniques online or just sit comfortably, close your eyes and try to reach a state of nothingness. A state of mind where there are no thoughts in your head and you just breath slowly. This takes a lot of effort and that is the beauty of it. Do it now and find it for yourself.
Keep your online activities in limits
If you love staying online to read up on the internet or just surfing about new things- It is not a bad idea. But if you surf social networking sites for more than two hours in a day- you bet that your loneliness may also come from there. Facebook is a great way to keep in touch with friends and family and sharing bits and pieces about your life, but if it is consuming half of your day and is also dominating your thoughts- then you better try to change it now. The more you get to know about all the fun that your friends are having, the more you feel empty. The information shared in the form of photographs and happy status messages may take a toll on your psyche in the long run. You may not even realise it initially. You may end up feeling lonelier than ever.
Last but not the least- You are not alone
No one person can make you completely happy and no one person has the ability to make you sad. All of us have similar needs and wants (to a great extent) which in turn lead to similar life situations. Remember that there are many people who are as lonely as you are. So you do have people who share the same feeling? Then you aren’t lonely anymore!
If you try to make the most of your presence rather than cry over the absence of others – you would realise that you are your own best friend and you do not need people to make you happy or simply entertain you. Utilise your time in doing everything that you like- It could be anything. But remember it should be productive enough as the things that you do, have the potential to give you guilt pangs later. Live it up! J
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